1) Foreplay! Slow It Down, Build Anticipation
Getting a little more in-depth with tip three above, slowing down is something that can work wonders for your foreplay efforts, and it is one of the foreplay tips for men that can be the biggest struggle.
Yes, you are excited, and so is she, but you want to build up something incredibly important to the overall sexual experience: anticipatory pleasure. Slowing your roll is the simplest way to do that.
The human brain knows two primary forms of pleasure:
**a) Anticipatory** — Pleasure experienced in anticipation of something we want. Consider the feeling you get when you really want that pizza and the delivery driver arrives.
**b) Consummatory** — Pleasure experienced when you actually get what you’ve been craving. That joy you feel when you sink your teeth into the first bite of pizza.
When it comes to sex, building up sexual tension and achieving heightened states of pleasure is all about anticipation, and anticipation falls right at the center of sexual pleasure.
Plus, it works the same for both males and females.
Of course, some guys have a hard time slowing down, especially if foreplay is a two-way street and she’s offering a lot of stimulation to you.
This is where [ideas in this guide](https://images.app.goo.gl/SSnxkTU2DgRvsW58A) can really be a saving grace. Especially if you anticipate performing poorly in bed.
2) Here are reasons why some women fake orgasms!
We exist in a results-hungry world where our achievements are measured in terms of how we reached our goals. If we didn’t reach them, someone gets mad, someone gets blamed (you) and someone gets disappointed.
Achieving female orgasm is the same. Sometimes you meet women who can climax easily, and you may or may not attribute it to how well you made her. She could claim that she did it herself.
No matter who gets the credit, the important thing is that it happened. You both made it happen, one way or another (though, in your mind, you know that YOU made it happen. Enough said).
In a world where achievements and egos go hand in hand, how does a guy who can’t make his girlfriend reach orgasm feel?
Here are Some of the Reasons Why Women Fake:
- So That You Won’t Feel Bad
- So That She Won’t Feel Bad
- Because It’s How It’s Supposed To End
- She Doesn’t Want To Look Ugly
- She Just Feels Like Faking
**Side note:** If you are currently struggling to give her an orgasm through eating her out or sex, [then you may want to learn about the Easy Orgasm Solution here.](https://images.app.goo.gl/e75ZyrSpux42EdB87) It will teach you how to help her have multiple vaginal and full body orgasms during sex and or when eating her out. It works even if she currently struggle to orgasm during sex or when pleasuring her.
3) Do All The ‘Naughty’ Stuff Most Guys Are Afraid To Do
Men have been BRAINWASHED into thinking that women are ‘delicate and fragile.’
Listen up.
Vaginas are made to push out babies! They are hard to BREAK!
My point?
The average man’s belief that women are delicate and fragile leads to soft, tepid ‘love-making’ that drives most women crazy with BOREDOM. Because it never, or rarely, makes her cum.
[Women like it HARD and DEEP most of the time.](https://images.app.goo.gl/7ZpHEVxc1XadkfwK7)
They like it ‘naughty.’
What ‘counts’ as NAUGHTY sex?
Dirty talk? For sure.
Spanking? Hell yeah.
Hair grabbing? Absolutely.
Anal play? Damn right.
Women LOVE it all.
It your job, to give ‘em what they want.
4) Here are kind-but-assertive steps for how to teach someone to kiss better.
1) Make it about what you like rather than what they are doing "wrong."
While you want to approach them in a way that lets them “save face,” it’s also important to let go of the belief that you’re responsible for their feelings. Keep in mind that you are telling them something about you that’s necessary for them to know if there’s any chance of things moving forward.
Be comfortable with yourself and confident in your message. Your message of “I’m okay, you’re okay — we just need to figure something out” gets conveyed through your words, voice, and mostly body language. Good eye contact, along with being positive, warm, and open is key.
Bonus points if you can find humor and show a little vulnerability yourself.
2) Lead by example.
If you want a slow, romantic kiss, tell them that. Then proceed to kiss them the way you want to be kissed.
You can also subtly “play” while kissing, pulling back and moving forward, giving them a sense of there being many ways to move around.
3) Pull back gently if you don’t like something.
You don’t have to be mean or rude. Just pulling your head back a little may give them enough of a hint if you don’t like something. You can also comment playfully about what it is you do like.
It’s good to keep things light, while still saying what you need to say.
Of course these are just quick tips but if you want to work of your kissing game you may be interested in reading [The Art of Kissing - An Illustrated Step by Step Guide Into Kissing Techniques](https://images.app.goo.gl/8umuh3ybYmag1wxj9)
5) Guys! Generally speaking, understands that women are SEXUALLY SUBMISSIVE.
You need to Take Control and Lead Your Woman. Understand that women do not want to take control in the bedroom, They don’t want to take the lead, They don’t wanna call the shots.
For these reasons, to have a rocking sex life you need to ‘step up’ and assumes the role of THE LEADER in the bedroom…
Confidently ‘taking your woman by the hand’ and showing her the way.
Ultimately, the more DOMINANT you are - the more submissive your woman can be. And, the more submissive she is - the easier and harder she will CUM. There are many ways to dominate and thrill a woman in bed! [Keep reading to find out more.](https://images.app.goo.gl/i1sNXhzoWFVXAZ2f8)
6) New to Anal sex? He Should Start On His Back.
The most comfortable position to start having anal sex is with the man on his back so that she is in control. This means that it’s a lot harder for him to thrust into her and it’s much easier for her to control how deep she takes him and how fast he thrusts.
So let him lie down on his back and should NOT thrust. Instead, he should remain still.
After applying some lube, she can then straddle him on her knees like in the Cowgirl position or even the Asian Cowgirl position.
She grabs hold of his penis and then slowly guide it inside her anus. Making sure to take her time.
The main thing here is to take things slowly. You don’t want to hurt anyone, so if anyone experience any discomfort at all, slow right down and even stop to allow yourselves to relax. Meanwhile the man should stay lying down on his back, not thrusting.
Once everyone feels comfortable, then he can start to get involved a little more by thrusting himself. Remember that she still needs to be in control here. So if he gets too carried away, she needs to tell him to slow down or stop.
This is the easiest and smoothest way to learn how to have pain free anal sex. But let’s not stop here…
It’s time to [change gears and learn some anal sex techniques](https://images.app.goo.gl/ZPsA7nobGr3Q22JL9) so you can discover how to have deeply satisfying anal sex.
The average dude assumes that if he’s feeling pleasure his partner is too—and that’s where he’s losing.
Being a slayer isn’t just about doing freaking stuff; it’s also about technique. Mastering the way you [switch up your rhythm, depth of stroke and positioning](https://only1book.blogspot.com/2024/03/thrust.html) will ensure you receive the ultimate compliment every time you put it down. This level of skillfulness requires some effort.
There is an art to making love, and just like the variety of paint strokes a painter uses to create a beautiful piece of art, a varied stroke technique is needed to truly create a [beautiful and satisfying sexual experience](https://only1book.blogspot.com/2024/03/orgasm-101.html) for her.
Any man can pump like a jack rabbit and achieve his orgasm quickly, but to put the pleasure of your partner first and sincerely savor every moment of being inside of her and connecting on an energy level [separates the truly skilled from the animalistic](https://only1book.blogspot.com/2024/02/pace.html).
Sure, she may like it hard and fast at some points during sex, but chances are she’s going to enjoy it more if you vary your thrusts a bit.
First and foremost, you have to train yourself to pay attention to how she is responding at all times. Second, you must [stay ahead of your climax](https://only1book.blogspot.com/2025/01/366.html).
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The mouth isn’t your only tool when Eating pussy. You could and should use a finger, heck, use two fingers.
Whilst your mouth is on her clit, insert your index finger and slowly slide it into her vagina, use the backwards stroking method to stimulate her g-spot ( [also used when trying to make a girl squirt](https://images.app.goo.gl/uxjS247cFWE6M9456) ).
See what’s happening here? You’re stimulating her clit and her g-spot like some sort of cunnilingus mouth wizard. She will be gasping for air at this point because it feels so freakin good.
If you’re feeling brave. Use two fingers and thank me later.
a) Place your mouth around her clit and suck on it while flicking it with your tongue. At the same time, insert your thumb into the opening of her vagina.
b) Insert just the tip of your index finger into her vagina and move it around in circles. The spot just inside her opening is very sensitive.
c) Rub your thumbs in little circles around the clit while licking the head with a pointed tongue.
d) Insert your fingers deep inside her and make a “come hither” motion. This should hit her g-spot.
Anyway, you can perfect your fingering skills [here](https://images.app.goo.gl/Frht6uAE693HRHRD7)
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To last long in bed, In your bag of tricks to work on why not also add this concept:
Since you really screw with your brain and not your penis, the more you divert your attention from what is going on in your delivery system down below, the less likely you will ejaculate prematurely.
Thus, one way to delay orgasm is to count every thrust inward, and focus your attention on the counting and not what your penis is feeling. Try to reach 100, and then start over again.
Some men recommend stopping thrusting altogether when you sense you’re close to a climax. But I don’t advice doing this, for a simple reason. While stopping penetration can help bring down your arousal, when [your woman is clearly enjoying the intercourse](https://images.app.goo.gl/EdTswfLk2JPspe3eA), it can really break the momentum and frustrate her instead.
What I suggest is [this simple penetration technique](https://images.app.goo.gl/NVkRBCDUQF6iddKN6) that can yield tremendous staying power for you, and yet put her on a continuous sexual high at the same time.
This is what you do…
Perform eight shallow thrusts about two to three inches deep, and then one deep thrust. Follow this up with seven shallow thrusts and then two deep ones; six shallow thrusts followed by three deep ones.
You get the idea.
Continue doing this until you are performing nine deep thrusting movements. Then repeat the entire sequence again.
Why does this work so well?
First, deep thrusts are the ones that bring your penis closest to orgasm, as the frenulum (the stringy thing in the “inverted v” under the glans) and shaft skin are stretched the most, causing greater arousal. [Varying shallow and deep thrusts](https://images.app.goo.gl/7ZpHEVxc1XadkfwK7) will help taper off the stimulation on the penis glans/head. Second, the first three inches of a woman’s vagina contain [the most pleasure-seeking nerves](https://images.app.goo.gl/uxjS247cFWE6M9456) and the shallow thrusts will stimulate her really well.
But if you end up trying to have sex a bunch of times, and you either can’t last long enough, or you can’t get it up, [you absolutely need to check out this guide](https://images.app.goo.gl/pxNboZb7h46PpYVc6). It has everything you need to gain control over your erections, and last exactly as long as you want during sex.
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Men! First time having sex? Here is your checklist:
**Come armed with condoms and contraception**.
Just make sure you’re prepared so that everything doesn’t come to a crashing and inconvenient halt.
**Pro tip**: Practice putting a condom on beforehand. You don’t wanna be that person who fumbles with his junk and accidentally slingshots the condom across the room. Heck, [even try masturbating with a condom on](https://only1book.blogspot.com/2024/10/multi-orgasm.html) so it doesn’t feel so strange the first time you have sex with latex wrapped around your joystick.
**Please please PLEASE do not forget about foreplay.**
This is going to be true for the rest of your damn life. So listen up. Foreplay is so important when it comes to sex.
So know that she’s going to take longer than you to feel aroused. Consider [going down on her](https://only1book.blogspot.com/2024/08/savage.html), fingering her, kissing her and fondling her breasts, rubbing your hands all over her, kissing her neck, making out… [anything to make her feel extra extra turned on](https://only1book.blogspot.com/2024/03/foreplay.html), extra horny, will make sex SO much more pleasurable for both of you
Women can’t usually just jump straight into the act without a little warming up first and, as a rule of thumb, foreplay should actually take up more time than the act itself.
**Use your fingers to locate the vaginal opening. Guide the penis inside the vagina**
Look — finding the vaginal opening for the first time can have you feeling a bit like Lewis and Clark. It can be really tricky at first, even for vagina-owners. I know I had a really hard time at first trying to insert a tampon, for example, because for all I knew, my vaginal opening could have been in Narnia.
**Performance issues**
Don’t be surprised if you have them. Whether due to overexcitement or nervousness, issues such as impotence and premature ejaculation are normal the first time. But don’t worry, these issues will normally resolve themselves after a few more experiences.
You might last all of two seconds.
Or, you might not be able to get it up at ALL.
Sometimes, your penis is like the singing dancing frog and doesn’t do what you want it to do.
This is perfectly normal, it’s very common, your dick isn’t broken. This happens to a lot of men when they’re nervous. Just pack things up and try again later.
But if you end up trying to have sex a bunch of times, and you either can’t last long enough, or you can’t get it up, you absolutely need to [check out this guide](https://only1book.blogspot.com/2025/01/366.html). This is everything you need to gain control over your erections, and last exactly as long as you want during sex.
**Signs.**
The best way to tell how well things are going is to check her response. If she’s just lying there staring at the ceiling, then it’s [time to try something else](https://only1book.blogspot.com/2024/03/thrust.html). If she’s panting and groaning with pleasure, however, you’re onto a winner.
**Just ask.**
Seriously, if you’re not sure what to do, or if you’re not sure if what you’re doing is right or not, then just ask. Women are really responsive to that kind of thing and [will be happy to guide you around their bodies](https://only1book.blogspot.com/2023/10/male-v.html).
BONUS #1 — keep it simple. Don’t try to emulate what you see in porn.
Do not try to be a fancy figure skater and wow your partner with your sweet moves. This is not parkour. And this is not the time for saucy horizontal dance moves or tricky sex positions.
Right now, the missionary position is perfect.
Your partner will appreciate that you’re not trying to reinvent the wheel.
But depending on your body type, shape feel free to [try a couple of different sexual positions](https://only1book.blogspot.com/2024/03/affectionate.html) to see which suit you best, but by all means, don’t overdo it or stress about it. If you’re enjoying it, then just go with the flow and let your bodies take care of themselves.
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